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Hey busy bees!
If you're anything like me, the word "tribe" is all over social media, and you're wondering why it's really taken off.
Who's heard it?
Today I'm going to be talking about the buzz word, "tribe" and share another one of my biggest takeaways at the Ignite Your Soul Summit I attended at the end of last month.
Lori Harder, author of Find Your Bliss, talked to us about the power of female friendships and finding your tribe. If I'm being perfectly honest, I thought tribe just meant a group of friends and I didn't get what all the fuss was about.
After learning about what a tribe really is, my perspective has changed completely.
Now I'm ready to share it with you!
The first thing that jumped out at me is the fact that
we so easily write our friends off when they do something we don't like.
Lori said that so many times we just want to "check off all the boxes" and have this mindset that a friend has to have certain things.
For example, some qualities I tend to look for in a friend are women who are:
likes to read,
watches reality TV or netflix shows,
likes to travel,
has a significant other to hang out with me and Ross,
cares about me,
shows up to events/parties/celebrations,
is an active participant in my life,
The truth is, we all have these "lists" in our head of what a good friend looks like,
but no one is perfect.
People are going to mess up and not fit in one of your boxes.
And what happens? It's easy to write people off.
Here's the game changer. Lori said,
Not your husband, not your best friend, not your awesome new co-worker.
The truth is, you have to create a tribe of women, and foster meaningful relationships.
The key is that each woman, each friendship, offers different, positive things to your life.
Maybe you have a friend you can talk all things business with.
Maybe you have a friend who you teach with.
Maybe you have a friend with awesome style who you like to go shopping with.
Maybe you have a friend who is well-traveled, and you like to go away with them.
Or maybe you have a childhood friend, who gets your family dynamics.
Not in a bad way- What I mean is,
Find the best parts of people and
treasure their friendship for that reason alone.
Another huge takeaway for me was that at different parts in our life,
we will lean on certain members of our tribe more than others.
The reason is that we have to borrow the beliefs of others, when we don't see it for ourselves.
For example, Lori said that when she was writing her book, she leaned on members of her tribe who had done it before her, so they could support her and cheer her on. She had other friends and family members who didn't get why she wanted to write a book, but it didn't mean she loved them any less.
At certain parts of our life, we are going to plug into women in our tribe more than others.
And that's okay.
The last thing I'll share is just that so many times, the word tribe can be intimidating because we might be at a point in our lives where we just don't have the meaningful relationships and friendships we desire.
If that's you, know you're not alone. You have the power to call in your friendships and your tribe.
- make a list of qualities you'd like in friends
- think about all the different facets of your life, and what kind of friend you'd like to support you in those areas
- ask yourself what kind of friend you are, and how you treat the women around you
- remember to just extend love, and eliminate any judgmental words about friends when they don't show up for you the way you want to
- eliminate expectations and just know that everyone is doing the best they can.
- attend networking events, attend live events/workshops and have an open heart. Your people are coming.
I hope you found these tips helpful! Feel free to share with a member of your tribe and thank her for all she does for you!
Check out Lori Harder's book, A Tribe Called Bliss!
Hey busy bees!
I am so excited to be sharing some takeaways from the Ignite Your Soul Summit weekend I attended in Portsmouth, New Hampshire. At the start of 2018, I made the goal of attending at least ONE live event, as I continue to grow and be the best coach I can be for my clients.
The event was life-changing, there are truly no words to describe the impact each speaker had on me, and the room of 200+ women I got to connect with.
The summit was two days long; We talked about all things business, money mindset, strong female relationships, forgiveness, spirituality, and our past.
More importantly, we were open and had a safe container to be our truest selves, without fear of judgement.
We laughed, we cried, we shared stories, and one of the funnest parts- we danced!
When was the last time you danced in a room full of strangers without worrying what anyone thought of you?
When was the last time you did some powerful inner work and took a giant leap outside your comfort zone?
When was the last time you invested in yourself and got “in the room” with people you admire and want to work with?
I can see the changes adding up already, because I decided to show up for myself, and for my clients.
How can I coach my clients if I’m not doing the inner-work myself?
Since the summit, I have created a more positive morning routine. I get ready, make some coffee, pack my lunch, and settle on my reading chair for some time to read and reflect before my day.
Since the summit, I went to church for the first time in probably 5+ years.
Since the summit, I’ve started making better eating choices, because I want my positive inner-work to show on the outside. I’m ready to be the best version of myself.
And because I’ve been doing the work myself, I’m ready to share some of my biggest takeaways with my tribe.
Today I’m going to be talking about attracting energy into your work.
Before we start, I’d like to ask you some questions to ponder:
When it comes to your life and business, are you taking the time for yourself?
How are you drawing energy into your life?
Do you plug into your big vision, or goals daily?
Do you have a morning or afternoon routine that keeps you motivated and lets you tap into your true needs?
If the answer is no, I’ve got you covered.
We can’t be productive or energized if we are feeling stagnant.
We cannot live a purposeful life if we are living in a cycle of fear and comfort.
As my pastor Josh Whitlow said in church on Sunday,
We need the energy and motivation to step out of our comfort zone and step into who we are meant to be.
Here are some ways you can energize areas of your life that have been stagnant, and make the changes you’ve been craving:
1. Prioritize time for yourself and set it as non-negotiable time. Don’t let this thought overwhelm you, start small! Carve out 15-30 minutes, and remember to start small. Small changes lead to a radical difference. Prioritize this time as a devotion to yourself and your work.
2. Decide how you want to spend this time. What do you love to do? Maybe you want to start meditating, writing, journaling, reading self-help books, or taking a long walk. Reflect on what will make your heart happy!
3. Feel energized by moving your body daily. Energy breeds more energy, so how are you getting out into the world and getting active?
4. Literally, get in the room with people who inspire you and have energy that you admire. Attend a live event, find a coach, listen to podcasts, go to a networking event or join a mastermind. I can’t tell you how much the summit renewed my energy and motivated me to keep doing what I’m doing. Borrow the beliefs from others that have gone before you and take steps forward!
I'm ready to do this thing and partner with you, as you take massive action and re-energize areas of your life! The beauty of this message is that it applies to our businesses, work, marriages, friendships, anything!
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Busy Bee meets Boss Babes interview with Christina!
How to change your mindset and reframe your thoughts!
Do you find yourself thinking negatively? Do you want a way to change your mindset to be more positive? This one's for you!
Hey Busy Bees,
This week on my instagram story I asked to hear from you. My mission is to deliver content that serves your life so I asked my followers to get in touch with me about what they'd like to see a blog post on!
We can get so in our heads and feel so alone, but chances are that if you're struggling with something, there are ten other people who are dealing with the same thing!
This week's blog post was inspired by a brave friend who sent me a DM! She writes:
I know there are so many of us that struggle with this!!! We work so hard to make a positive change, and then when it's here the fear sets in. What I've come to learn is that our brain is literally powered to keep us safe, to keep us inside of our comfort zones.
Here are some ideas to help you change your inner dialogue and be confident as you take this inspired step towards your dreams!
First, to be committed to your dreams, you need to know your WHY- your purpose and reason for making this career change.
What are you hoping to do? Who are you willing to serve? How will this change your life? How are you living out your purpose?
I recommend carving out some quiet time and space to journal these questions.
Your WHY will drive you through the tough days and will remind you why you chose this work. Get clear on your purpose and your goals in this new career change.
Write about what excites you about your job and why you're thankful you've been called to this new position. What have you done to get you to where you are TODAY? I'm sure it didn't come without hard work and dedication.
From your why, I would create positive affirmations to say to yourself when you feel nervous, scared or feel negative thoughts creeping in. Some ideas are:
"Challenges are opportunities to grow and improve."
"I make a difference by showing up every day and doing my best work."
"I am becoming a better version of myself one day at a time."
"I am worthy enough to follow my dreams and manifest my desires."
Next, I would imagine all the BEST scenarios in your new job.
Force your brain to think differently and counter any negative thoughts with positive ones.
What opportunities will this job bring you? How will you feel at the end of each day? How are you making an impact?
Sometimes, we spend SO MUCH TIME over-analyzing things and thinking about all the worse-case scenarios! It's time we turn it around and remind ourselves about what can go RIGHT! Michelle Obama says:
Know that fears are completely normal...in fact, everyone has fears before making a big change. You are not alone in this. The thing that separates successful and fulfilled people from others is that they don't let fear win.
It's a beautiful thing to realize that your only limit is YOU! Trust the journey that's led you here and keep going! You are exactly where you need to be.
If you're not fearful, you're not learning or growing. Would you rather stay safe inside your comfort zone and live a life less than the one you're capable of living?
1. Know your WHY!
2. Create positive affirmations and say them to yourself to counter negative thoughts!
3. Reflect on BEST-Case Scenarios!
4. Don't let fear hold you back! Recognize them and MOVE PAST THEM!
You've got this, sister!!!!
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Busy Bee meets Boss Babes interview with Colleen and Emma from Shop Evolve!
Hey busy bees,
Thank you all so much for participating in the poll on my instagram story this weekend! My mission is really to serve you and help you make positive changes in your life, so I'm excited to share this new post with you today.
There was an overwhelming response of people who were looking to be more productive. The word productive can be intimidating sometimes. Who doesn't enjoy laying on the couch with a glass of wine, watching netflix after a long day?
Productivity doesn't mean you have to give up all that.
It means prioritizing what's important, setting non-negotiable times to get things done, and ALSO setting aside time to relax when you're done.
Here are some tips and ways I stay productive in my business, career and personal responsibilities! Which one tip are you going to focus on?
1. PLAN your week!
So many people think that means writing things down in a planner. Guess what? I tell my clients all the time that planners don't work for most people. I use reminders in my phone about 4570468 times a day. I have a google calendar for work and just the regular iphone calendar in my phone for client coaching sessions or social activities! If there is something you'd like to get done, schedule it into your week. Just like you would a trip to see friends or a business meeting. SCHEDULE IT IN! That's the only way it'll happen peeps.
I recommend looking at your calendar the night before, or setting aside time in the morning if you're an early bird. Think through each of the things you'd like to get done and make it happen!
2. Set NON-Negotiables (with yourself!)
If I have a client coaching session, I schedule it into my calendar and it's non-negotiable. I wouldn't skip it and not show up for my paying client, right?
You should treat time for exercise, business development or "me" time the same way. YOU are deserving of this time, and you are just as worthy as any other "important event."
I have started doing this with the gym; scheduling it into my week like I would any other activity and reminding myself that it's a non-negotiable time.
I don't even get into that argument with myself if I should or shouldn't go. It's just done!
Try it out- it works wonders. It's all about that inner dialogue people!
3. Set goals.
I can't tell you how many people/clients I work with that say they set goals at work, but don't set personal goals. AGAIN, YOU are most important. What do you want your life to look like 1, 5 or 10 years from now? Are you happy? Do you have financial goals to pay off consumer debt or buy a new car? Take a trip? Plan for a baby? Plan for retirement? Attend a conference? Get a promotion? Dream big and take the time to set goals. Write down 30, 60 and 90 day goals. Or monthly goals. Break your big goals down into smaller steps and again, plan time to accomplishing them into your week!
4. Review your progress and hold yourself accountable.
Are you incentive driven? Many of us are. Set goals and don't forget to reward yourself! Share your goals with your significant other or friends (better yet, a coach!) Hold yourself accountable for your goals by staying consistent.
It's not enough to want something, you have to work for it!
If you're slacking, ask yourself why! It's all about your inner-dialogue and self talk.
Know that change doesn't happen overnight and it's all about those small changes you make every day that add up to the big ones.
Treat yo' self after you've achieved your goals!!!
5. Have a rock-solid routine!
It's so important to have a routine that gives you time to reflect on all of the things you want to do. If you want to meal plan before a busy week, you have to allocate the time. If you want to journal or begin meditating you must make it part of your routine! Whether you're a morning personal or night owl, find something that WORKS for you! There is not a one-size-fits-all! I have found that doing small things each day helps me eliminate overwhelm.
For example, I HAAATE doing laundry. I put it off forever, and then I'm completely overwhelmed, bitter and stressed out when I have to spend a day on the weekend doing it. I've realized this really sucks and isn't working for me, so I've decided to change my routine. I put in a load in the morning, throw it in the dryer when I'm making dinner then bring it up after dinner when I'm watching TV to fold! It's helped eliminate the overwhelm, and although it's easy to put off, I've realized it's much more pleasant this way!
I could go on for days, but I want to keep this short and sweet! I'd love to hear which tip resonated the most with you and which one you'll be trying out this week!
Thanks for reading and don't forget to subscribe for my productivity tips and inspiration. Lots of my instafriends wanted to see a blog on creating positive habits, so that's on the list next!
Have a great week!
Busy Bee meets Boss Babes interview with Noelle Parent from Gifted RVA!
Hey busy bees,
Today I'm sharing a little story from our anniversary trip to Nashville. After a 10 hour car ride, I couldn't wait to relax in a hot shower and put on my sweatpants! When I got in the shower, I started to really think about how the morning started off, and I immediately couldn't wait to get to the computer to share this story with you.
I hope this story inspires you on this New Years day of 2018! Here goes:
My husband, Ross, and I had an AMAZING trip to Nashville. After 4 days in Music City, we couldn't wait to get back home, pick up our dog Bailey, and relax before heading to work tomorrow. We woke up around 6:30 on New Years Day and immediately started packing. We were ready to hit the road! The temperature in Nashville the entire weekend was BITTER cold, and this morning was no exception. I'm talking 9 degrees! We loaded up the car; I'm still half asleep and moody becaue I haven't had my coffee. After throwing everything in the back seat, Ross tries to start up the truck. For those of you that don't know, he drives a diesel truck so it takes a little bit to get it running, especially in the cold. So when it didn't start, we didn't panic. We knew it might just take a little bit. But after a few minutes, my anxiety started to set in. We're 9 hours from home, it's new years day so there is probably nothing open. He kept turning the key and turning the key and nothing was happening. Ross realized it was probably the battery.
Thank god for a Buzzfeed article I read a while back- who knew that all those useless articles would actually serve a purpose?!? But it was an article on life hacks and how you can call uber/lyft if you need a jump. I've never known anyone personally to do this, but I figured it was our best bet. We don't have AAA and the last thing we wanted to do was drop hundreds of dollars on a tow truck. So, I pulled up the Lyft app and prayed someone would help us.
I had so many thoughts running through my head. I had no idea if the driver would even be willing to help us. I kept praying that the right person would pick up the ride and be able to help us.
Sure enough, a Lyft driver named "JR" responded to our request. Ross contacted him and asked if he would be willing to help us. Within a few minutes, he was there. We got the jumper cables and prayed it would work. At this point, it's BITTER cold outside and the last thing anyone wanted to do was be out in it. Our driver was so kind, kept the car warm, and told me to warm up inside. Meanwhile, Ross kept trying to jump the car and after a few attempts, it still wouldn't start. At this point, we talked about calling a tow truck or going to Walmart to get a new battery. Again, I couldn't help but think the worst.
Our driver waited very patiently, all while keeping a smile on his face. He said he had only been a Lyft driver for one week. He was doing it to make some extra money and was in town for New Years Eve. At this point he had been driving since 11 PM the night before.
About thirty minutes later, JR tells Ross to try to start the truck again. He tried it once, and it didn't work. We gave it one last try and......it started!!!!!! I threw my hands up in the air and immediately felt so relieved. The truck started up and we could finally go home.
I gave JR an extra tip and told him how much we appreciated what he did. On the ride home today, this story had me thinking about living and working with excellence.
Excellence means greatness; the very best. Outstanding, excelling, going the extra mile.
I think a lot of people have the false assumption that in order to be excellent, you must have a certain job, appearance, social status, or certain amount of money in the bank.
It couldn't be farther from the truth.
Excellence means helping someone out when it would be easy to hide behind your job description and say, "I'm sorry, I can't help you."
Excellence means standing out in the cold, helping someone in need when it would be easier to stay inside your warm car.
While all of this was running through my head, I listened to Oprah's podcast with Jack Canfield, the author of Success Principles. He was talking about one of his nightly routines that he has, and recommends to his students. He looks himself in the mirror and compliments himself on the things that he did well that day. On the other hand, he also examines times in the day where he could've been kinder, more patient, or more compassionate to another person. For example, maybe he got frustrated with the grocery clerk after waiting in line for 15 minutes. He thinks about that particular situation and asks these questions:
How could I have been more loving today? How could I have shown more kindness today?
These questions really hit home for me. How can I show more love to my husband on the ride home today, when he's been doing all the driving for 10 hours (even though I offer a million times!) How can I show gratitude to my parents for watching our dog this weekend? How can I have more patience with my students, or show kindness with my colleagues at school this week?
How can I do more?
Our Lyft driver, JR, is the perfect example of this. He showed kindness, compassion, empathy, and excellence this morning. We would've been stuck in Nashville for God know's how long if it weren't for him. Because he chose to do MORE, our day wasn't ruined. We were out of the parking lot in less than 45 minutes after finding the dead battery.
What a beautiful reminder on this New Years Day.
To remember to strive for excellence.
To be kind.
To show gratitude.
To do MORE for others.
To ask yourself important questions.
To be more loving.
Share this story with a Lyft/Uber driver you know and THANK them for their service! I know I'll be asking myself at the end of every day these questions, and I hope you will do the same!