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Your Identity Map Story

Hi busy bees!

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Yesterday I was at a literacy leadership meeting and the literacy team started us off with an activity I’ve done several times throughout my personal growth and development journey. It’s always a great feeling when my career as a reading specialist and literacy coach ties in with my coaching business.

The team shared that we would be making identity maps.

Identity maps are a great activity to do with students to tie in social-emotional learning, but is also a powerful personal growth activity!

Identity maps allow you to map out important event’s in your life; some that you may not have thought of in quite some time. We are quick to block out aspects of our past that are painful, but it can be eye-opening to see how your pain launched you into something better and made you a stronger version of yourself.

Each time I do an identity map, I think about what has each brought me to where I am today.

They shared some amazing examples ranging from an identity road map from birth to present. Think of a road going across the paper, and simple graphics/words/illustrations mapping out important events in your life.

Another example I loved was a a glacier with traits that people see on the outside, and traits that no one sees below the surface. The outside traits go on top of the iceberg, and the deeper ones were written below the surface of the water.

Yesterday, I chose to do the identity road map.

The activity reminded me of how fun and empowering it can be to look back on where we’ve been and feel empowered to keep moving forward.

I’m telling you this because as a life coach and designer, my passion is helping women live intently, fulfill their dreams, and be productive in the things that truy matter.

Identity maps can be an amazing activity to pinpoint where you’ve been and where it is that you’re going. Now today, I’m going to share how to make one with you! I’ve created a simple template you can use to do this.

One of my favorite identity maps also came from Amber Lilyestrom’s Ignite Your Soul Summit event. The reason why this one in particular is so powerful is because she had us start from birth to present and identify the HIGHS and LOWS of our lives. The way we indicated this was by dotting the good/happy events ABOVE the line, and the hard times BELOW the line. This allowed us to truly “connect the dots” of our stories and honor every version of ourselves.

The beautiful thing about this map was that after every low, there was a rise.

For my identity map, I invite you to think about ten high and low points in your life and how your story has lead you to where you are today.

After doing your identity map, think about the following questions:

  1. What are the top moments where you chose YOURSELF and your dreams?

  2. What were your biggest lessons learned during the low points?

  3. What are some high points that came after the low ones?

  4. Where are you ready to go next in your life or business?

  5. What fears keep holding you back?

  6. What are you ready to receive and call into your life next?

Ready to dive in? Download the template here and complete it by Sunday evening for a chance to win a $5.00 Starbucks gift card!

All you have to do is complete it and tag me over at @busybeecoach on instagram or @busybeeproductivityco on Facebook. Share on your story or feed for a chance to win! If you tag a friend who might like this activity as well, double your chances of winning!

It’s been an honor to touch base and share with you today! If you’re ready to invest in yourself and your own personal development journey, email me today for 50% ANY of my one to one coaching packages.

This is a huge deal that I’ve never offered before. I’m ready to partner with women craving positive change, and who want to end 2018 the best way possible.

Working with a coaching, joining a group coaching program, attending live events and doing these activities have made me a better, stronger version of myself. Are you ready?

Contact me here!

xo,
Danise

How Do I Start Working on Myself?

Hi busy bees,

I'm coming to you from my family's vacation house in North Topsail Beach, North Carolina! We are here for the week for a family vacation, and it's been just what the doctor ordered. 

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It's been a "different" Summer for me, for sure! If you missed my announcement, my husband and I are expecting our first baby in February! We are so thrilled and excited. At the beginning of the Summer, I had absolutely NO energy and slept pretty much all day. It was really weird for this busy bee to be so worn out, but I just embraced it and am finally feeling better now that we're in the second trimester! I'll have to write a blog post about my pregnancy another time!

Photo by Remy Thompson Photography

Photo by Remy Thompson Photography

Anyway, after a few long walks on the beach, I've been feeling really inspired to connect with you guys and answer a question that has been resonating in my coaching sessions and conversations with friends. 

The question of: How do I start working on myself? 

I went to the Made for More Movie by Rachel Hollis with my friend Faith and the theatre was PACKED with women. It reminded me of WHY I do what I do. This inner work and these conversations MATTER. The thing I hear over and over is, I see women talking about personal growth, but how do I start working on myself?

If you're anything like me, I like ACTUAL steps that I can implement into my life. Forget the fluff stuff; I want to REALLY know how to make a change.

If that describes you too, this blog post is for you! Are you ready to make a change? Let's dive in.

1. Pinpoint an area of growth. 

Grab a journal or find a quiet space. Think about your life and ask yourself what you need more of. What doesn't feel right? What are some things you'd like to change?

So many people think personal growth is for women who want to start businesses. It's not true! No matter what YOUR life path is, or what your work in the world is, personal growth is key to fulfillment. 

Let's face it, no one is perfect. We ALL have things we want to get better at, change, and work on. So what are yours? These are your areas of growth. Now you can start thinking about how to build positive habits, set goals, and make changes around them. 

2. Get inspired.

Sorry if I'm a broken record guys, but the only way to make a change is to get inspired! 

My favorite ways to get inspired are:

  • attend a live event
  • find a self-help or personal growth book in your area of growth. Is it motherhood, your career, starting a business, or nutrition? Find your passion and plug into those who have gone before you.
  • listen to podcasts
  • work with a coach

3. Step outside your comfort zone and try new things.

This one goes with number two, but I can't stress this one enough. If you want to start working on yourself, you've got to try new things. The things we are most afraid of are the things that are going to push us to grow. What are some things you've been wanting to DO or TRY?

For me, it was finding a church. I talked about it and researched churches in Richmond for almost a year before I had the guts to go try it out. It took me going to a live event to say OKAY, I'm really going to do this. But, I am so happy I did. 

Don't let fear hold you back. 

4. Set goals and make a plan.

Remember your areas of growth? Set goals and create an action plan to make the changes you're craving. If your goal is to buy your first home, work backwards and make a plan. If your goal is to finally launch a business, again, work backwards and plan out the steps that need to happen! 

5. Prioritize your time. 

How many times do we say we want to do something, but say we don't have time? This is something I work with my client's on, ALL THE TIME! 

The thing I suggest most is scheduling time into your week to work on your goals, and complete the above steps. Maybe it's Sunday morning or evening. Maybe it's getting up an hour earlier before work. 

You've got to make time for YOU. It's not easy, but once you start carving out the time for yourself, you will see the benefits! 

6. Never stop growing and self-reflecting.

This one also goes with number 5. After you've set goals, made a plan, and scheduled the time to make it happen, don't forget to keep self-evaluating. 

Ask yourself, how am I doing with my goals? Did I accomplish what I said I would? 

Is this still a goal I truly desire, or is there something better for me that's come along?

And of course, once you've achieved your goals, it's time to set new ones! We are never perfect and our work is never done. 

And that's it! 

As always, if you found this blog post helpful, I'd love for you to share with your friends or someone else who might want to see this!

I am scheduling coaching clients for the Fall, so if you'd like some one to one support and accountability to FINALLY make some positive changes, you can email me here. I offer free consultations and have coaching packages to fit any budget. How are you investing in yourself and your personal growth?

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Thanks for being here!

xo,
Danise

Compassion over Reaction

Hey busy bees!

I'm excited to share this blog post with you guys this week. I think it'll hit home for many of you, and this is something I had to plug into and practice a lot this week.

I'm going to be talking about compassion over reaction.

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It's no secret that things don't always turn out the way we expect them to. That's life. But that doesn't mean it's not frustrating.

Shit happens.

You get into a car accident on your morning commute.

Your program launch for your business doesn't take off the way you've hoped.

You're not booking as many clients or getting customers this month.

You're finances are far from perfect.

People annoy you or do something to hurt you at work.

To dive in more to the friendship side of things-

How many times are we disappointed by the way others treat us?

We say things like "I'd never do that" or "I can't believe they would think that's okay." 

That's where the idea of compassion over reaction comes into play. I shared a little behind the scenes of this over on my instagram story (@busybeecoach) and I got a lot of feedback from my followers! How can we turn off the reaction button, ie. anger, frustration, stress, expectation, etc. and choose compassion. Or choose love.

Our job is just to love people, and not to judge them.

Sometimes we are so hard on ourselves because we are guilty of judging others. So how could we not expect them to do the same to us?

Shannon Kaiser, in her book "Find Your Happy" she says, 

When we react, we block ourselves from receiving guidance and clear direction on how to move forward with grace and ease.

She says that our reactions are simply fear based thoughts, and we should reframe that way of thinking into one of compassion and love. 

It's no secret that people disappoint us. It happened to me this week. But when I found myself getting frustrated, I could literally hear Shannon Kaiser's words in my head and I thought about how I could change my perspective and come from a place of love and understanding. I thought about the other persons side, and tried not to take it personally. It wasn't easy, but I kept saying Shannon's mantra in my head and it TRULY helped me process my feelings and feel better about the situation. 

She says to ask yourself, "How can I see this situation with more love?"

Wondering how you can put this into action? Here's the mantra from Day 7 of her book, Find Your Happy:

 

I choose to see all situations with more compassion. I am responsible for my outcome and if there is a situation I don’t like, I can lessen the frustration by seeing the situation from a new perspective. I let love lead the way as I choose to perceive everything with more kindness...I no longer react to frustrating circumstances, instead, I choose to be more compassionate with myself and others.

Just, WOW! Right???

I hope you found these words powerful and helpful. I challenge you to be self-aware when you are reacting to circumstances out of your control and ask yourself the questions presented here today. How can I see this with more love?

I'm sending you lots of it!

I highly recommend Shannon's book. You can buy it on amazon here! 

Message me if you buy it so we can be accountability buddies!

xo,
Danise

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Choose Your Calling Over Comfort

Hey busy bees!

I am so excited to be sharing some takeaways from the Ignite Your Soul Summit weekend I attended in Portsmouth, New Hampshire. At the start of 2018, I made the goal of attending at least ONE live event, as I continue to grow and be the best coach I can be for my clients.

The event was life-changing, there are truly no words to describe the impact each speaker had on me, and the room of 200+ women I got to connect with.

The summit was two days long; We talked about all things business, money mindset, strong female relationships, forgiveness, spirituality, and our past.

More importantly, we were open and had a safe container to be our truest selves, without fear of judgement.

We laughed, we cried, we shared stories, and one of the funnest parts- we danced!

When was the last time you danced in a room full of strangers without worrying what anyone thought of you?

When was the last time you did some powerful inner work and took a giant leap outside your comfort zone?

When was the last time you invested in yourself and got “in the room” with people you admire and want to work with?

I can see the changes adding up already, because I decided to show up for myself, and for my clients.

How can I coach my clients if I’m not doing the inner-work myself?

Since the summit, I have created a more positive morning routine. I get ready, make some coffee, pack my lunch, and settle on my reading chair for some time to read and reflect before my day.

Since the summit, I went to church for the first time in probably 5+ years.

Since the summit, I’ve started making better eating choices, because I want my positive inner-work to show on the outside. I’m ready to be the best version of myself.

And because I’ve been doing the work myself, I’m ready to share some of my biggest takeaways with my tribe.

Today I’m going to be talking about attracting energy into your work.

 

Passion energy

Before we start, I’d like to ask you some questions to ponder:

  1. When it comes to your life and business, are you taking the time for yourself?

  2. How are you drawing energy into your life?

  3. Do you plug into your big vision, or goals daily?

  4. Do you have a morning or afternoon routine that keeps you motivated and lets you tap into your true needs?

If the answer is no, I’ve got you covered.

We can’t be productive or energized if we are feeling stagnant.

We cannot live a purposeful life if we are living in a cycle of fear and comfort.

As my pastor Josh Whitlow said in church on Sunday,

Your calling will cost you your comfort.

 

We need the energy and motivation to step out of our comfort zone and step into who we are meant to be.

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Here are some ways you can energize areas of your life that have been stagnant, and make the changes you’ve been craving:

1. Prioritize time for yourself and set it as non-negotiable time. Don’t let this thought overwhelm you, start small! Carve out 15-30 minutes, and remember to start small. Small changes lead to a radical difference.  Prioritize this time as a devotion to yourself and your work.

2. Decide how you want to spend this time. What do you love to do? Maybe you want to start meditating, writing, journaling, reading self-help books, or taking a long walk. Reflect on what will make your heart happy!

3. Feel energized by moving your body daily. Energy breeds more energy, so how are you getting out into the world and getting active?

4. Literally, get in the room with people who inspire you and have energy that you admire. Attend a live event, find a coach, listen to podcasts, go to a networking event or join a mastermind.  I can’t tell you how much the summit renewed my energy and motivated me to keep doing what I’m doing.   Borrow the beliefs from others that have gone before you and take steps forward! 

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I'm ready to do this thing and partner with you, as you take massive action and re-energize areas of your life! The beauty of this message is that it applies to our businesses, work, marriages, friendships, anything!

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As always, if you found this blog post helpful, I'd love to hear from you! 

Xo,

Danise

Be More Committed to your DREAMS than your COMFORT ZONE!

Hey Busy Bees,

This week on my instagram story I asked to hear from you. My mission is to deliver content that serves your life so I asked my followers to get in touch with me about what they'd like to see a blog post on!

We can get so in our heads and feel so alone, but chances are that if you're struggling with something, there are ten other people who are dealing with the same thing!

 

This week's blog post was inspired by a brave friend who sent me a DM! She writes:

I’m struggling to stay positive because I’m scared of failure. I recently accepted a new job...I start next Monday and I’m nervous (because) this is something new for me. Can you give any advice about staying positive and taking a risk and making a change in my life/career?

I know there are so many of us that struggle with this!!! We work so hard to make a positive change, and then when it's here the fear sets in. What I've come to learn is that our brain is literally powered to keep us safe, to keep us inside of our comfort zones.

Here are some ideas to help you change your inner dialogue and be confident as you take this inspired step towards your dreams! 

Life will only change when you become more committed to your dreams than you are to your comfort zone.
— Billy Cox

First, to be committed to your dreams, you need to know your WHY- your purpose and reason for making this career change.

What are you hoping to do? Who are you willing to serve? How will this change your life? How are you living out your purpose?

I recommend carving out some quiet time and space to journal these questions.

Your WHY will drive you through the tough days and will remind you why you chose this work. Get clear on your purpose and your goals in this new career change.

Write about what excites you about your job and why you're thankful you've been called to this new position. What have you done to get you to where you are TODAY? I'm sure it didn't come without hard work and dedication. 

From your why, I would create positive affirmations to say to yourself when you feel nervous, scared or feel negative thoughts creeping in. Some ideas are:

"Challenges are opportunities to grow and improve."

"I make a difference by showing up every day and doing my best work." 

"I am becoming a better version of myself one day at a time."

"I am worthy enough to follow my dreams and manifest my desires." 

Next, I would imagine all the BEST scenarios in your new job.

Force your brain to think differently and counter any negative thoughts with positive ones.

What opportunities will this job bring you? How will you feel at the end of each day? How are you making an impact? 

Sometimes, we spend SO MUCH TIME over-analyzing things and thinking about all the worse-case scenarios! It's time we turn it around and remind ourselves about what can go RIGHT! Michelle Obama says:

Don’t ever make decisions based on fear. Make decisions based on hope and possibility. Make decisions based on what should happen, not what shouldn’t.

Know that fears are completely normal...in fact, everyone has fears before making a big change. You are not alone in this. The thing that separates successful and fulfilled people from others is that they don't let fear win.

It's a beautiful thing to realize that your only limit is YOU! Trust the journey that's led you here and keep going! You are exactly where you need to be. 

If you're not fearful, you're not learning or growing. Would you rather stay safe inside your comfort zone and live a life less than the one you're capable of living? 

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To recap:

1. Know your WHY! 

2. Create positive affirmations and say them to yourself to counter negative thoughts!

3. Reflect on BEST-Case Scenarios! 

4. Don't let fear hold you back! Recognize them and MOVE PAST THEM! 

 

You've got this, sister!!!! 

 

If you found this post helpful, I would be so honored if you'd share it with your friends or followers! You can also follow me over on instagram at @busybeecoach to see more behind the scenes action, productivity tips and inspiration like this!

If you have something you'd like me to blog about, send me a message! I'd love to hear from you.

You can also schedule a completely free consultation HERE to see how productivity coaching can help you change your life. 

xo,

Danise 

 

 

A Story On Excellence: How our Lyft Driver saved New Years Day

Hey busy bees,

Today I'm sharing a little story from our anniversary trip to Nashville. After a 10 hour car ride, I couldn't wait to relax in a hot shower and put on my sweatpants! When I got in the shower, I started to really think about how the morning started off, and I immediately couldn't wait to get to the computer to share this story with you.
I hope this story inspires you on this New Years day of 2018! Here goes:

My husband, Ross, and I had an AMAZING trip to Nashville. After 4 days in Music City, we couldn't wait to get back home, pick up our dog Bailey, and relax before heading to work tomorrow. We woke up around 6:30 on New Years Day and immediately started packing. We were ready to hit the road! The temperature in Nashville the entire weekend was BITTER cold, and this morning was no exception. I'm talking 9 degrees! We loaded up the car; I'm still half asleep and moody becaue I haven't had my coffee. After throwing everything in the back seat, Ross tries to start up the truck. For those of you that don't know, he drives a diesel truck so it takes a little bit to get it running, especially in the cold. So when it didn't start, we didn't panic. We knew it might just take a little bit. But after a few minutes, my anxiety started to set in. We're 9 hours from home, it's new years day so there is probably nothing open. He kept turning the key and turning the key and nothing was happening. Ross realized it was probably the battery. 

Thank god for a Buzzfeed article I read a while back- who knew that all those useless articles would actually serve a purpose?!? But it was an article on life hacks and how you can call uber/lyft if you need a jump. I've never known anyone personally to do this, but I figured it was our best bet. We don't have AAA and the last thing we wanted to do was drop hundreds of dollars on a tow truck. So, I pulled up the Lyft app and prayed someone would help us.

I had so many thoughts running through my head. I had no idea if the driver would even be willing to help us. I kept praying that the right person would pick up the ride and be able to help us.

Sure enough, a Lyft driver named "JR" responded to our request. Ross contacted him and asked if he would be willing to help us. Within a few minutes, he was there. We got the jumper cables and prayed it would work. At this point, it's BITTER cold outside and the last thing anyone wanted to do was be out in it. Our driver was so kind, kept the car warm, and told me to warm up inside. Meanwhile, Ross kept trying to jump the car and after a few attempts, it still wouldn't start. At this point, we talked about calling a tow truck or going to Walmart to get a new battery. Again, I couldn't help but think the worst.

Our driver waited very patiently, all while keeping a smile on his face. He said he had only been a Lyft driver for one week. He was doing it to make some extra money and was in town for New Years Eve. At this point he had been driving since 11 PM the night before. 

About thirty minutes later, JR tells Ross to try to start the truck again. He tried it once, and it didn't work. We gave it one last try and......it started!!!!!! I threw my hands up in the air and immediately felt so relieved. The truck started up and we could finally go home.

I gave JR an extra tip and told him how much we appreciated what he did. On the ride home today, this story had me thinking about living and working with excellence.

Excellence means greatness; the very best. Outstanding, excelling, going the extra mile. 

I think a lot of people have the false assumption that in order to be excellent, you must have a certain job, appearance, social status, or certain amount of money in the bank.

It couldn't be farther from the truth. 

Excellence means helping someone out when it would be easy to hide behind your job description and say, "I'm sorry, I can't help you."

Excellence means standing out in the cold, helping someone in need when it would be easier to stay inside your warm car. 

While all of this was running through my head, I listened to Oprah's podcast with Jack Canfield, the author of Success Principles. He was talking about one of his nightly routines that he has, and recommends to his students. He looks himself in the mirror and compliments himself on the things that he did well that day. On the other hand, he also examines times in the day where he could've been kinder, more patient, or more compassionate to another person. For example, maybe he got frustrated with the grocery clerk after waiting in line for 15 minutes. He thinks about that particular situation and asks these questions:

How could I have been more loving today? How could I have shown more kindness today?

These questions really hit home for me. How can I show more love to my husband on the ride home today, when he's been doing all the driving for 10 hours (even though I offer a million times!) How can I show gratitude to my parents for watching our dog this weekend? How can I have more patience with my students, or show kindness with my colleagues at school this week?

How can I do more?

Our Lyft driver, JR, is the perfect example of this. He showed kindness, compassion, empathy, and excellence this morning. We would've been stuck in Nashville for God know's how long if it weren't for him. Because he chose to do MORE, our day wasn't ruined. We were out of the parking lot in less than 45 minutes after finding the dead battery.

 

What a beautiful reminder on this New Years Day.

To remember to strive for excellence.

To be kind.

To show gratitude.

To do MORE for others.

To ask yourself important questions.

To be more loving. 

Share this story with a Lyft/Uber driver you know and THANK them for their service! I know I'll be asking myself at the end of every day these questions, and I hope you will do the same!

xo,

Danise 

 

 

A simple quote that transformed my day...you might need to read this too.

This week's blog post will be short and sweet. I almost posted this as an instagram post, but decided to post it on the blog because I think other people might need to read this too. 

Today was rough; I'm feeling completely drained this afternoon and I can't wait to share more with you guys VERY soon....but to sum it up;

 

Exciting changes are happening over here, and change,

even with it's good,

isn't always easy. 

 

With that said, I flipped through my quote journal looking for some inspiration or for some words to jump out at me.

I needed to read SOMETHING, anything really, that would help me practice what I teach in this business.

Things like: 

Surrender.

Release.

Stay positive.

Stay focused on your goals. 

Be present. 

Be vulnerable.

Don't worry about what other people think.

 

But what I found myself doing was the complete opposite.

That's when I turned to my journal...and what I found was this quote:

 

The purpose of life is to suck in the entire experience and love fully from the heart.
— Shannon Keiser

It's so simple but SO true. 

Every experience is not always how we imagined it would be. Not everything can be tied up in a pretty bow, right? But if we embrace these experiences and allow ourselves to FEEL every moment; excited, happy, nervous, scared, anxious, worried, etc. then we are allowing ourselves to go through the experience that is meant for us. 

Life is all about adventure. Embracing the ups and downs, and being open to change is the only way to grow. Love the process. Let yourself be fully open to it. Love those around you, and the ones that support your journey. 

I'm going to remember to QUIT the "are we there yet mentality" and be present HERE, instead of THERE. The time will come, and I need to just soak in everything that's happening right now and take it all one day at a time.

 

I'm going to read this quote quite a few times today, pour a glass of wine and stay focused on my goals.

What are you experiencing now?

Are you allowing yourself to embrace change?

Is your heart open to new experiences?

I know that someone else out there needed to read this message, and if it spoke to you, I'd love to hear from you!

Have a great week, busy bees.

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xo,

Danise 

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