Reframe Your Negative Thoughts

Hey busy bees!

A few weeks ago, I sent a weekly tip to my subscribers, and today I'm going to share it with you!

I'm going to share some ways that I reframe my negative thoughts when they start to creep in. 

This topic comes from one of my friends; I asked my followers over on instagram (@busybeecoach) to share things they are struggling with, or a topic they'd like me to speak about, and she requested this one! 

I'm sharing today because I think we can ALL relate to this feeling- times when we are feeling stuck, unworthy, and we're not growing at the pace we'd like to.

Maybe...

You've taken a step towards our dreams, and you're putting in the work, but you're not seeing any benefits yet.

You're pouring your heart out there online to market your business and....crickets.

 You're in school, or grad school, and the end goal seems SO far away. 

You're ready to take your business to the next level and sponsor new teammates or book more clients, but it's just not happening.
 

It's a tough feeling, and I've personally been there.

 

 Photo by Remy Thompson Photography   

Photo by Remy Thompson Photography

 

Here are some ways to counteract those negative thoughts:

 

1. Know your why and let that fuel your days.

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Your WHY is tied to your big dreams; it's your mission and big picture for your life.

Your WHY should drive your actions, everyday. Your WHY gives you a clear focus. 

If you're never thought about this before- think about the following questions.

Why are you doing what you're doing?

What is the end goal?

How are you serving others?

What is your mission or purpose for your life?

 

When times get tough, or negative thoughts set in, your WHY can counteract those thoughts. 

2. Give yourself grace and time to grow. 

 Image from Emily Ley's book

Image from Emily Ley's book

Don't rush the process! I love this flower analogy by Mark Nepo from The Book of Awakening. We may see a beautiful flower about to bloom; we admire it's beauty and want it to bloom so we can enjoy it even more. But as much as we want it to bloom,


The flower will bloom when it's ready.


If we try to make it bloom, and pry it's beautiful layers apart, it will tear. The flower will die and we will never see it's beauty.

Think of that in terms of your journey. 


You may be in a time of growth, and that's OKAY. Just know your time to bloom is coming, too. Enjoy each part of your journey and stay consistent. Don't rush the process and know that you are learning through the challenging times. If we aren't challenged, we aren't growing. 

You will bloom at the right time. 
 

3. Create positive affirmations. 

I've talked about this before, but the best way to counteract those negative thoughts is have affirmations. Affirmations are things you believe about yourself and whatever it is that you're trying to accomplish.

It's your time to declare what you truly want. 


What you visualize and call in for yourself is what will come. I have affirmations about my health, my marriage, my business, and my students. It fills me with power and purpose when I read/say them. This is something I work with my clients on during our 1-1 sessions.  You can also find ideas on Pinterest or online!

4. Lastly, set goals and hold yourself accountable.

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I can't tell you how many people sign up for coaching for this reason alone! Many of us set goals at work, but don't set personal goals. How can we monitor our growth and stay focused without setting clear goals? It just doesn't work.

I love setting 30, 60 and 90 day goals for myself. It doesn't feel overwhelming and it's something that allows me to focus on the present moment, but also moving forward with little steps. 

Goals breathe life into our days and give us a sense of purpose.


If you're feeling stuck, there is no better way to reclaim your power by setting goals. Don't forget to think about the feelings behind your goals- this comes from Danielle LaPorte's book called The Desire Map. Each of our  goals is really tied to how we want to FEEL at the end of the day, or when we wake up in the morning. Think about how you want to feel in your life one month or one year from now. 

So to recap- know your why, give yourself time to grow, set affirmations and clear goals. Know that you are NOT alone in this!

That's all for now! I hope you found these tips useful! Have a great rest of the week!

xo,

Danise



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