How Do I Start Working on Myself?

Hi busy bees,

I'm coming to you from my family's vacation house in North Topsail Beach, North Carolina! We are here for the week for a family vacation, and it's been just what the doctor ordered. 

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It's been a "different" Summer for me, for sure! If you missed my announcement, my husband and I are expecting our first baby in February! We are so thrilled and excited. At the beginning of the Summer, I had absolutely NO energy and slept pretty much all day. It was really weird for this busy bee to be so worn out, but I just embraced it and am finally feeling better now that we're in the second trimester! I'll have to write a blog post about my pregnancy another time!

Photo by Remy Thompson Photography

Photo by Remy Thompson Photography

Anyway, after a few long walks on the beach, I've been feeling really inspired to connect with you guys and answer a question that has been resonating in my coaching sessions and conversations with friends. 

The question of: How do I start working on myself? 

I went to the Made for More Movie by Rachel Hollis with my friend Faith and the theatre was PACKED with women. It reminded me of WHY I do what I do. This inner work and these conversations MATTER. The thing I hear over and over is, I see women talking about personal growth, but how do I start working on myself?

If you're anything like me, I like ACTUAL steps that I can implement into my life. Forget the fluff stuff; I want to REALLY know how to make a change.

If that describes you too, this blog post is for you! Are you ready to make a change? Let's dive in.

1. Pinpoint an area of growth. 

Grab a journal or find a quiet space. Think about your life and ask yourself what you need more of. What doesn't feel right? What are some things you'd like to change?

So many people think personal growth is for women who want to start businesses. It's not true! No matter what YOUR life path is, or what your work in the world is, personal growth is key to fulfillment. 

Let's face it, no one is perfect. We ALL have things we want to get better at, change, and work on. So what are yours? These are your areas of growth. Now you can start thinking about how to build positive habits, set goals, and make changes around them. 

2. Get inspired.

Sorry if I'm a broken record guys, but the only way to make a change is to get inspired! 

My favorite ways to get inspired are:

  • attend a live event
  • find a self-help or personal growth book in your area of growth. Is it motherhood, your career, starting a business, or nutrition? Find your passion and plug into those who have gone before you.
  • listen to podcasts
  • work with a coach

3. Step outside your comfort zone and try new things.

This one goes with number two, but I can't stress this one enough. If you want to start working on yourself, you've got to try new things. The things we are most afraid of are the things that are going to push us to grow. What are some things you've been wanting to DO or TRY?

For me, it was finding a church. I talked about it and researched churches in Richmond for almost a year before I had the guts to go try it out. It took me going to a live event to say OKAY, I'm really going to do this. But, I am so happy I did. 

Don't let fear hold you back. 

4. Set goals and make a plan.

Remember your areas of growth? Set goals and create an action plan to make the changes you're craving. If your goal is to buy your first home, work backwards and make a plan. If your goal is to finally launch a business, again, work backwards and plan out the steps that need to happen! 

5. Prioritize your time. 

How many times do we say we want to do something, but say we don't have time? This is something I work with my client's on, ALL THE TIME! 

The thing I suggest most is scheduling time into your week to work on your goals, and complete the above steps. Maybe it's Sunday morning or evening. Maybe it's getting up an hour earlier before work. 

You've got to make time for YOU. It's not easy, but once you start carving out the time for yourself, you will see the benefits! 

6. Never stop growing and self-reflecting.

This one also goes with number 5. After you've set goals, made a plan, and scheduled the time to make it happen, don't forget to keep self-evaluating. 

Ask yourself, how am I doing with my goals? Did I accomplish what I said I would? 

Is this still a goal I truly desire, or is there something better for me that's come along?

And of course, once you've achieved your goals, it's time to set new ones! We are never perfect and our work is never done. 

And that's it! 

As always, if you found this blog post helpful, I'd love for you to share with your friends or someone else who might want to see this!

I am scheduling coaching clients for the Fall, so if you'd like some one to one support and accountability to FINALLY make some positive changes, you can email me here. I offer free consultations and have coaching packages to fit any budget. How are you investing in yourself and your personal growth?

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Thanks for being here!

xo,
Danise